The Pressures & Expectations on Women Today

What are the pressures and expectations placed on women today?

Oh my….This is an intense question, which is going to take a lot of words to answer but I promise to make is as short and sweet as possible without it losing its meaning.

There is a lot of pressure on women today and there has been for quite a while.

Again, this is not to say that men aren’t experiencing similar struggles, but in my writing, I speak to women because that is the energy I recognize in myself. I relate more naturally to the development, traumas, and complexities of the female experience. I would never attempt to speak into a man’s psyche because I am not a man and cannot fully fathom what it feels like to embody healthy masculine energy.

The Pressure to Be Something We Are NOT

- First, I would like to address the topic of pressure on women today.

Women today have been under the pressure of transformation since the feminist movement began. The feminist movement that went completely wrong, by the way. Instead of making room for femininity in society, workplaces, schools, higher education, and politics, women copied men. Women adopted the masculine energy they perceived in men, from outfits to behavioral patterns.

This was done not by men to women but by women to women. A fear related and thus fear-based function in the female – maybe initially one woman, creating a trend that then spread throughout the many different societies, mainly in the Western parts of the world.

Conclusion: The pressure comes from within the female community. She has placed the pressure of masculinity on herself. She didn’t have to, and she still doesn’t have to, yet she does it with a high level of effort and with a high level of consistency and continuity.

The Expectations We Place on Ourselves

- The expectations placed upon women today is thus of our own making.

This is GOOD to know! Why?

Because it means that we have the power to change it. Also, if we are of the belief that it was done TO us and AGAINST us, we have made ourselves victims of both the past, the present and the future. If something is done to us and we are the victims, we leave ourselves powerless – meaning no change available or even likely. Unfortunately, many women suffer from this kind of Stockholm Syndrome, when it comes to reflecting on herself and this as her truth – She simply won’t allow it to be the truth. She can’t have it, because she has told herself that she is happy playing in the field of the masculinity. She has convinced herself that she is proud of being:

• Ambitious

• Focused

• A carrier woman

• Financially supporting herself

• Independent - meaning not dependent on a man

• Able to do it all (and what she believes is expected of her) tend to both carrier, home, children, grocery shopping, cleaning, doing laundry, tending to the garden, driving kids to and from school, sports and play dates etc.

What We All Really Need

- She is constantly up and about, and we ask ourselves why we are stressed out of our minds and why our children aren’t thriving. We need to start by looking at ourselves and ask if we are thriving ourselves? If the parents aren’t thriving, why should the kids? Because we are working our butts off to provide and do all the things for our children that we think they expect from us, or to live up to some kind of standards of what it means to be good, if not to say perfect, parents and citizens? We need to stop this nonsense, once and for all, and realize the fact that we all need each other up close and personal. We don’t need each other to be away from each other most of the days and evenings or weekends as well. We need relating, closeness, physical touch. WE ALL JUST NEED LOVE, to be loved and to love. THIS IS WHAT WOMEN ARE EXCELENT AT…but she is running out of time. Time to be that love for herself and those around her. Time to relax and flow, which is her natural state. Time to provide for those she loves with touch, presence and care.

Releasing the Pressure & Expectations

- Let’s take some of the pressure off now.

- Let’s release the expectations we place upon ourselves first.

 Look at your life and ask yourself: Where can I start letting go of pressure?

•  Where can I begin to lower my expectations of myself—today?

•  Where can I create space for someone to support me?

You don’t have to be perfect.

You don’t have to do it all.

The most important thing required of you as a woman, a wife/partner, a mother, a sister, a daughter, or a granddaughter is simple: to love, to care, and to hold space.

The most important person to give it to, to begin with, is YOU.

If you aren’t giving it to yourself, you won’t be able to pass it on to or share it with others.

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With Love,

Elizabeth Walker