The Love You Seek is Seeking You

HAPPY VALENTINE’S…!!

- But is it a happy Valentine’s for you or is it the time of year that breaks your heart because once again you’re spending this day alone. Maybe today feels lonelier than any other day of the year, except perhaps your birthday, Christmas, and New Year’s.

For years, I felt relieved that in Denmark, where I’m from, Valentine’s Day isn’t as widely celebrated. Yet, no matter the culture, loneliness finds its way in. I know all too well the sting of being the third, fifth, seventh-, or ninth wheel during family gatherings. I even chose to spend New Year’s Eve alone for six years, just to avoid feeling lonelier amid couples celebrating together.

A Heartbreaking Realization

A few years ago, during our Pentecost family holiday, I hit an emotional wall. Everyone around me was part of a couple, except for the children, of course. As I sat there, it struck me like lightning: I am alone… still. No one to hold, no one to kiss, no one to share the weight of life’s moments, no one to truly see me in that intimate way. The pain was so deep that I had to leave the table and find a place where I could be alone to let my tears flow.

My lovely mother, sensing my distress, followed me. She simply held me as I wept, allowing me to feel everything without judgment. Then, she spoke words that I will never forget:

“You see what everyone else has, but you will get something even better. You have waited and are still waiting because you won’t settle. He will come, and I know you will be happy again.”

In that moment, I felt love, the deep, unconditional love of a mother. This wasn’t just comfort, it was revelation. Love was already present, even in my pain. And that love, that energy, was guiding me toward something greater.

Love Is Everywhere - If You Choose to See It

That day, I made a choice. I decided to experience love in all its forms, without hesitation, without judgment. I stopped looking at love as something distant, something I didn’t have. Instead, I started seeing love in all its forms. If I could open my heart to love in every way, I knew I was preparing myself for a love beyond anything I had ever known.

So let me ask you:

• Are you single?

• Are you feeling alone?

• Are you lost in the chaos of dating?

Pause. Breathe. And trust. Love is never absent, it’s always around you. It’s just waiting for you to recognize it.

Trust your intuition.

Trust your heart.

Trust that you are worthy, because you are.

Love is not just a relationship status - It’s a state of being

This Valentine’s Day, make the decision to love and be loved. Decide to make a life for yourself worth loving. Decide to love the process of the journey ahead. Love is not a prize you earn; it’s an energy you align with. Be patient. Love always finds a way to the one who holds it and invites it into her heart.

And remember: It’s okay to have standards. But before expecting someone else to meet them, make sure you are embodying them yourself.

When I finally chose to invite love into my life again, I prayed, not from a place of fear or from my ego but from a place of knowing – My heart. I didn’t pray for a perfect man. Instead of focusing on surface-level traits, I prayed for a man whose soul matched mine. A man who shared my values, who wanted a family, who had depth, wisdom, and the courage to stand strong in life’s storms. A man who wouldn’t run when life would challenge us. Someone I could respect, trust, and love completely.

When You Align, Love Arrives

God answered my prayer in less than three months.

But I had to do my part. I had to step out of my head and into my heart. I had to trust that God knew better than me. I had to focus on my values, rather than external factors like age, looks, or income.

And yet, in His divine wisdom, He gave me everything—including the physical attraction.

Love Is a Choice

If there’s one thing, I would want you to take away from this, it’s this: Love is not just a feeling. It’s a choice. It’s a practice. It’s an energy. Love is a choice we make every single day. It’s something we do, something we live, something we are (or are in the becoming of/recognizing). So, if you desire deep, lasting love, you must first live in love. Love your life. Love the journey, even when it feels uncertain.

This Valentine’s Day, make the choice: Choose to love. Choose to believe. Choose to trust.

Your forever Valentine is on their way—but love starts within you.

With Love,

Elizabeth Walker